Wednesday, 25 January 2017

Abstinence is NOT that bad, believe it or not.


This post is probably mostly for the teenagers. Let's talk about Abstinence. I'm sure you might have heard of it. Not sure if you believe in it.
Abstinence is not just an Indian practice, it is advised universally and there's a reason behind it. Young generation these days do not believe in abstinence as they find it as an orthodox opinion. 
You'd probably end up getting a bunch of reasons that counter the idea of abstinence.
For instance, why wait for tomorrow? Nobody has seen tomorrow. One should live life to the fullest, because you never know when it ends.

Ok, I get that. So does that mean, we should stop saving money for the future and spend all of it on the things we want now?
Should everyone neglect the legal age of doing certain things and just be carefree?
Should we all leave our jobs or studies and go out for a trip for the sake of living the moment?
I don't think so.

Firstly, it's your life, no one has any right to make you follow any kind of rules. 
But there's a simple fact that many people need to understand that probability of seeing tomorrow is much higher than that of not seeing it.
Which implies that probability of tomorrow's regret is more than that of  today's satisfaction.

Restraining yourself from things which you've been yearning from a long time can actually make you very strong minded and determined as you are prudent enough to make firm choices. 
There's a right time for indulging into certain things and when that time comes, you'd actually feel a lot more happier than being impatient and breaking the rules set by yourself.
Because that would just give you a momentary happiness along with feelings of guilt and anxiety. 

Let me give you an example, what would you prefer more, 
Being empty stomach from a long time and then getting your favorite food in a good quantity. 
Eating lots of food when you're not even that much hungry and eventually being left with no food at all when you actually need some?
I think the first one would be a good choice. Ehh?

That's how it works. I'm not just talking about the physical abstinence or abstinence from alcohol but every desire or yearning of yours will be eventually fulfilled but it would be even more satisfying if you be patient enough and give priority to the 
things which are important for you now. 

Leaving the cultural and the conservative thoughts aside, I'm saying as a rational person that there wouldn't be any excitement left in your life if you will experience everything today. Just go with the flow and wait for the appropriate time. Do not take any step in the heat of the moment because that moment could change your entire life. 
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Tuesday, 15 November 2016

Eternal memories



Taking a moment to admire and muse on,

All those milestones, turning points,

And Landmarks we voyaged, until now.

Those wedding bells ringing with seaters and greeters,

Graced with Ushers and bridesmaids,

Accompanying the two of us with a great deal of wishes and good luck.

I can still recollect the scent of lilies and orchids,

That assured it was going to be fairly fancy.

That pleasant baby shower with even more pleasing memories.

Followed by the patter of those tiny feet,

Those little hands trying to grab my finger

That lovely smile and glittery eyes of our angel,

Didn't realize how I got so lucky,

I guess it all started with your knock at my life's door!
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Man of her dreams


You are that hiccup,

I'd never want to get rid of.

That maze in which,

I'd love to get lost.

That restriction, I'd never cross.

That knot, I'd never undo.

That fantasy, I wish was true.
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Saturday, 8 October 2016

May I?

May I have this dance with you?
May I trust you to lift me?
May I hold you closer, 
and look you in the eye?
May I topple over on purpose,
so you could grab me?
May I seize the moment,
As I whisper how high am I?

May I wink at my worries,
So I could focus on your charm?
May I be consumed with your desire?
May I admire your persona,
As I caress your soul?
May I be endowed with your tenderness?
May I ask you to be my main?
May I embrace you forever?
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It's YOU

Your love is like a shroud of mist,
Obscuring all the gloominess within me.
I lay aside my worries,
and cease to think of my fears.
No No.. it doesn't happen deliberately,
It's an unintentional affair.

Your love is like the Vodka shots,
It has got me insanely high.
Perhaps, there's some spell in your touch,
An irresistible pleasure in your Aura.
A temptation in your essence,
That makes me tune into the ultimate ecstasy.

Ask me about my serendipitous encounter,
And I'd promptly say, It's YOU..
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Sunday, 18 September 2016

Empower one another


I don't speak on this as often and as much as I should, but this is something that we must believe in. 
If a girl has a boyfriend, that does not make her a sinner. If she has been in 15 relationships so far, that does not make her a slut. What if she trusts people easily and has been cheated for all those times? Do you even know how it's like to have your heart being stabbed and broken for so many times?

If her dress has a cleavage, or she drinks or wears heavy makeup or has all guy friends, that does not give you a right to judge her. If she's proud of her body and likes to flaunt it, that's totally her choice. You are nobody to make false assumptions about her. A girl wearing shorts may be a virgin and the one wearing a suit may or may not be, that's none of our business to judge people on the basis of the way they dress up, their lifestyle or family background. 

I feel sorry for the people and especially the females who instantly form negative opinions about other women who are bold enough to carry themselves out in public. We should rather empower each other than spreading hatred and false rumors. It's awful that we ourselves are the major reason for letting us down. 

You will agree that most of the mothers (in fact my own mother) have always barred their daughters from doing so many things that they think is "inappropriate" for us to do. You have to sit decently, talk decently, dress decently. Some woman, being the cooler one(as much as she could) suggested me to wear whatever I like, but not at the places filled with uneducated eyes where it might be inappropriate.

I don't understand a simple thing that why is still there a need to teach us rather than teaching those men who can't even have a control over themselves?
Someone (a guy) told me that he agrees with me, but men just can't help it, it's natural for them to get aroused by the bare skin of women, there's no solution to it, it's "man's nature". And I didn't have words to express how disturbed I was after hearing that. 
I totally agree that there could be a scientific fact that they get attracted more than women do on seeing men, but I do not agree that they're not even strong enough to control those feelings for the sake of humanity! Is it that difficult, seriously? 

I'm not promoting anything, I personally, do not feel comfortable wearing a deep neck top, but I am not making a statement that it's wrong to wear. 
There's no universal wrong or right. It's just a matter of one's opinion. And all I want to say is that we are no one to make opinions on anyone, but ourselves. If you're not in favour of something, that's your personal choice. Something may be wrong for you and right for someone else. If you can't spread love, please do not spread hatred. 
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Saturday, 13 August 2016

A Real Hero

Many would say they can die for you,
And they would actually mean it,
But only a few would actually dare,
To live and survive for you.
Every now and then,
Even after facing worst atrocities in life,
They'll be as strong as ever.
For they know that they're the reason,
Behind many smiles and many hopes.
That's something a real hero does,
They keep challenging their lives,
Sometimes they win, sometimes they learn,
But they never fail as they never give up.
One day life surrenders in front of them,
And they rule the world..
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Happiness is..


Mom's excitement when I buy her,
Some fancy cookware.
Papa's pride when he sees me,
Taking a step forth in life.
Sister's silent relief on seeing me,
back home after a while.
Tikki wale uncle's content,
As he knows even if no one does,
I'll always have one plate of chole bhature.
Rikshaw wale bhaiya's delightment,
When I don't argue with his rate.
My doggy's tail, twirling around,
When I pat him and bring him his favorite salami.
My little cousins' enthusiasm,
When I pretend to be a guest in their tea party game.
When my bestie is all smiles, on seeing that I still care,
Even if we no longer share the same room.
I am happy, when they're happy.
If they're not, why would I be?
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Friday, 5 August 2016

The Story of A Suicide by Sriram Ayer

The Story of A Suicide by Sriram Ayer and illustrations by Ghana is a heartbreaking story packed with Drama. Trauma. Love. Betrayal. Lust. Hatred. Revenge. It would not do justice if I used only one adjective to describe it. Want to know why? Then, You must probably read it right away without any further ado. 

It's a stark reality that suicidal tendencies and attempts are most widespread among youngsters these days. A teenager's juvenile temperament is certainly not composed enough to deal with critical issues of the society. Sadly these people are the most targeted ones as the blooming flowers are most prone to being plucked. As you grow up you realize that giving up is not a choice, you either deal with the situation or find a solution to it. There are many lives that are connected with yours, you can't just be so much wrapped up in yourself to opt for an easier way that is escaping and giving up on life.

The Story Of A Suicide effectively unveils the hypersensitive issues that persist in our society such as chauvinism, sexual abuse and cyber bullying.
What I liked the most about this novel is that it is so descriptive with every minute detailing of every scene that you can easily paint the situation in your mind. From the visual portrayal and sound effects of surroundings to the body language and expressions of eyes and lips, there are so many instances in the story that make you comprehend the characters and the surroundings so well. Throughout the 31 chapters, I could actually imagine vivid images of Charu, Hari, Mani and Sam.

All four of them are depicting completely different attributes that do exist in many youngsters. Charu is portrayed as the bold and fearless one. She is a free spirit who can't be tamed by the rules set by people around her. Her words and actions do complete justice to her fearless attitude. Hari on the other hand is the nervy one, as he lacks the courage to voice the torture that he has gone through in his childhood to his parents, he doesn't open up with people very easily as Charu does. He is always anxious about his sexuality and feelings. Mani's character has been put up as a boy who had a distressing childhood and is the only hope of her mother who has gone through a lot. Both Hari and Mani have a frightening past, perhaps they connect so well because they can understand each other's pain very well.
Sam is a tech geek (a.k.a tech guru) and is utterly obsessed with social media as most of the teenagers are these days. He feels very proud of his technical skills and rich background. He is portrayed as an egoistical and haughty character who also has this little soft corner for the girl he loves.

I could connect to many traits of each of the characters that are put into words in this novel. 
Hari's parents absolutely reflected my parents as they are equally protective of me. But at the same time they are unaware of the situations which I deal with everyday. Even if they got to know they wouldn't be able to understand me because of the generation gap between us and completely opposite perspectives. Same is the case with Hari and his parents.
Ironically, Hari's father never got to know about the miserable sufferings that Hari had gone through in his Childhood and weren't willing to accept his sexuality despite being so fearful about him getting hurt.
There is no single protagonist in the plot, almost equal attention has been given to the lives of all four of them. The narrative is very expressive and has tints of teenage slang that makes the plot even more credible.

Ayer has very brilliantly drawn the psychedelic experiences, hallucinations, past memories and dreams of the characters. One might get baffled at first but as soon as it is realized that what is being illustrated, he/she will be completely mesmerized by the thought of it and could also relate oneself to some of them.
Beautiful and evocative illustrations by Ghana just add more drama to the reader's imagery. There is an appreciable South Indian touch in the narration with use of words such as "Amma", "Appa", "Aiyoo" and many more.
The plot addresses both feminist and male chauvinist comments passed by the characters so there's no one-sidedness towards a particular sex.
There's a clever use of words that brings apt feelings of young lust, desire, concern, fear, dilemma and rage as the page turns to unravel another chapter. The story ends on a tragic note touching reader's soul to the core. 

Personally, I think committing suicide could only make things worse. And it takes a lot more courage to live, survive and fight with your hardships than taking such drastic step. There are many people out there suffering from fatal diseases, who are fighting each and every day to survive in this battle called life. There are many who are not even sure if they would be able to survive another day or not, but still you can see that hope in their eyes to wake up next morning and embrace the sunlight. You are more than lucky if you're healthy, can buy yourself enough food and have at least one person in your life who loves you. Many people pray and yearn for what you already have. I don't think giving up the most precious thing for the sake of a heart break makes enough sense. I know it's really hard to deal with depression, there are many painful incidents that happen in our lives. But it's not the end, there must be at least one good reason for you to live, you just need to search for it and make yourself feel better. 

All in all I simply loved the concept behind The Story of A Suicide. You may read the complete plot at this  link. Also, there are 'How do I' links on the right alignment of the website that are great sources of help to deal with similar challenges that we face in our lives.
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Sunday, 10 July 2016

Horlicks Growth+ #CatchUpOnGrowth

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Growth and development are the two indispensable things for a child's sound health. We all must have noticed that in earlier times, children used to be much more healthier and immune than now. Today's fast moving living standards have resulted in poor eating habits of children.
Every child craves for fast food and candies which lack in essential nutrients required to have a proper growth. These things make their stomachs full and they refuse to have the beneficial diet. This is the reason that has made most of the parents worried about their child's irregular or hampered growth. Their concern towards this is absolutely reasonable as this can cause many problems in a child's physical and psychological health.

Falling behind in height, weight or sharpness can cause loss of self-confidence in children. They may be subjected to humiliation by other children of the same age group. No parent would want their child to have a childhood where they feel weak and low. So, it's very essential for the parents to make their children to catch up on their lost growth.
To find a solution to this problem it's necessary to find the reason behind why most of the children are lagging behind in proper growth as per their age.

Slow growth means that their body is not getting sufficient nutrients and protein required for effective metabolism. For this, a child must intake a balanced diet that contains all the necessary nutrients for their well being. But it's really difficult to make them eat every food that is known to be enriched with a particular nutrient as children prefer eating outside junk food. There might be chances that you wouldn't be able to make them have every nutrient and necessary amount of protein in their diet.
This is the reason why you should always keep Horlicks Growth+ at your home, to give a wholesome and delicious diet to your child.

Horlicks Growth+ is a clinically proven nutritional supplement that has shown visible growth in children in the age group of 3-9 years, in just 6 months of their intake. It is enriched with all the necessary nutrients such as Calcium, Zinc, Vitamins, minerals and also high quality protein that effectively improves the growth of children who have fallen behind in having average-weight. It naturally improves the weight without causing any obesity in children.  Also, it contains essential Amino acids that activate growth in bones for stronger and taller children.

It could be taken with water or milk and is available in two super delicious flavors, i.e Chocolate and Vanilla. Make your children to intake any of these delicious flavors, daily in recommended amount, to see faster results. Children may skip meals but won't skip having this delicious drink, they would rather make sure to have it regularly. In case they get bored of having it, you can try making different recipes by adding fruits, nuts and ice cream to make it even more exciting for your children. And the best thing is that it is clinically tested and has proven to show visible results, so every parent can completely rely on this product without having any anxiety regarding this in their mind.

To know more about Horlicks Growth+ and its amazing health benefits, do tune into
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Thursday, 7 July 2016

Sunshine awaits further


 Some choices we make,
Some promises that break,
Some wounds and freckles,
Some inside devils,
Some needy compromises,
Some bitter sacrifices,
Some grudges and regrets,
Some failures and threats,
Are a part of our lives,
which we have to face,
one day or another,
To see the Sunshine,
that awaits further...

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